Thursday, April 28, 2011

A Phase of Opposition

Nathan didn't want to pose for a photograph on Easter morning.  "Stand up straight?  How dare you ask me to do that."
My sweet little boy has entered a phase of opposition.  This once easy-going baby with a super-pleasant demeanor—often called good-natured by our family doctor—is becoming an obstinate little boy with a terrible shriek to his voice that just started yesterday. 

He’s becoming less a baby and more of a “real boy,” but is somehow still managing to be both at the same time.  He’s not able to communicate exactly what he wants, but he definitely knows what he wants—and he seems to always want the things he can’t have and at times that are terribly inconvenient or just not possible.  And parenting is…getting harder.  Just when you think things are getting easier, you realize that really, they’re just not.

He’s not even two yet, and although he’s not terrible, I fear that we’re getting there faster than I expected.  (Really, I was hoping to avoid the terrible twos altogether, but alas.)  The suddenness of this change is what’s scaring me a little bit—I’m just not ready.  Where did my sweet, amicable little baby go? 

Nathan at four months.  How I miss those days.  Although it could be a misperception, looking back, things seemed so much easier then.  But I know that some things were really much harder, like sleeping at night or nursing every two hours during the day.  It was exhausting, so I wonder why it looks so easy now.  Maybe it's a trick to make women want to have more than one child.  Or maybe now things are just a different kind of difficult.


  1. It probably doesn't help to tell you: It gets worse. Julia started the "terrible twos" early & once she actually turned two, occasionally morphed into a demon child. She's almost two and a half now, and it's much better, though. I think when they start it early they end it early as well. Occasionally I still wonder if she's possessed, but it happens maybe once a week rather than several times a day.

    So gets worse, but then it gets better. Hang in there. :)

  2. Aw, I remember that feeling. But I used to say once you get used to and comfortable in a certain stage it changes on you.

    Does it get worse? I don't know about that? In Japan and many other countries there's no such thing as the terrible two's. makes me wonder if it isn't the way we, in the west, think about this stage. I remember my eldest being challenging but I wouldn't say terrible. They definitely change and challenge but each stage has it's amazing rewards!

  3. I agree that every stage has its rewards. I'll just hang on tight for the ride!

    Thank you both for the insights. : )

  4. I'm thinking we will call it the 'terrific twos' :) xooxo wesley will most likely show you his fantastic tantrums on monday:) hahaha


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